The Theory of ‘Resume’

“I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by conscious endeavour.” ~Henry David Thoreau

Mysterious as the English language is, fluid and ever changing, it has allowed this word to hole multiple meanings. A résumé is the piece of paper that speaks of your background and skills with which you get yourself a job by having your employer read it and assess its details. Resume, the verb on the the other hand, implies a new beginning of an action that was halted for whatever reason.

Whoever thought to combine these two words with the same coding of the 26 letters of the alphabet was intelligent.

Writing your résumé results in unconscious thoughts of your past, what you have been doing with your time, how your experiences have actually impacted you. With this, you see for yourself how much you have accomplished, how much you want to accomplish. It is not just a redundant piece of document that once it disappears into the hands of a man in an office, will never be thought of again.

You see, in fact, the possibilities that lie before you, the should haves, could haves, if onlys. You see all the redundant habits you have collected over the years. You see what you have been drawn to because of who you are and your personality. You see where you have fallen, where you have been routed, where you have failed to become the person you wanted to be.

It is a period of reflection of what you truly want to do based on what you have already done. And after you write it, you resume your life, with new vigor, with a renewed sense of purpose, an inkling perhaps, of what you would like to accomplish in the future.

If only more people thought on a daily basis of whether they would put the activities they engage in into their résumé. Would that party you attended be something you can put into your résumé? Would being late for every class for 10 years of your life be a skill you are proud of? Would looking down on everyone who has a better life than you be an attitude you can use later on in life?

What about the multitude of YouTube videos you watch? What about the time spent flirting with social media? What about the efforts you put into studying, thinking, working and sweating?

It is the habits you develop that make something worth writing about. The way with which you approach life. The thoughts you put into your own head. Do you control your life or does your life control you?

When the short pause you put on your life to write your résumé ends and your life resumes, what will you change?


The Theory of 360 Degrees

We all know our vision is limited and we can only see what’s in front of us and certain angles to the side. We invented cameras to act as our eyes, capturing images of what’s in front of us so that we remember them.

But then that’s not good enough. So there are now 360 cameras which can capture pictures behind, things that our eyes cannot see. But why are we so obsessed with having to see everything behind us? Even though it seems like an advancement in technology, we are actually turning backwards and looking at the past.

With our eyes, we only see a few things at once. At times it’s frustrating, especially when you have a cheeky friend who likes to scare you from behind. But by not being able to see what’s behind, we don’t get distracted so easily. Once we set our eyes on the goal, it’s easier to fire the arrow with your full focus because all that fills your vision then will be that goal.

360 cameras tempt us. “What’s around you? What’s behind? You want to see, don’t you?” And we stay in that spot and look. There’s a lot to see. It’s true that life is very complicated and having a wider perspective certainly helps you to see more, but do you realise that at the same time, you’re standing still and not moving forward?

There’s no point in seeing everything when you don’t know where you want to go because there’s one degree that no eye and no camera can see and that is: the future. When it comes to the future we are all as blind as a bat and utterly confounded.

That is why, what you have is enough. Just go forward with the vision in front of you and don’t look back.

The Theory of Introversion

“In an extroverted society, the difference between an introvert and an extrovert is that an introvert is often unconsciously deemed guilty until proven innocent.”

Introversion occurs on a spectrum so every introvert is different. However, the concept is one and the same.

Social étiquette in our society is designed by and shaped for extroverts, hence it is to no one’s surprise that introverts are easily misunderstood. Declining invitations, setting personal boundaries and leaving the party early can all be seen as rude. Many no longer remember how to say ‘no’ without feeling overwhelmed with guilt so they say ‘yes’ when every fibre of their exhausted being was saying ‘no’. Pleasantries, politeness and niceties are poured out to the point of depletion. Then guilt comes when there is no more energy to be nice.

Are they rude? Were they trying to hurt you? Is it wrong to slip away and restore themselves? In a world where personal space is a premium and ‘no’ is one of the most feared words in the dictionary, it is no wonder that this is considered rude.

The concept of introversion and extroversion was developed by psychologist Carl Jung in the 1920s and used widely in personality tests and the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator.

Science has uncovered that thinking processes are much longer for a introvert than they are for an extrovert. Introverts take the current stimulus back into their long term memory to compare with their past experiences, then they analyse the pros and cons of the stimulus before processing the information. On the other hand, extroverts process the stimulus into information right away and use talk and socialisation to analyse the stimulus and their reaction to it.

“It is very difficult for an extrovert to understand an introvert-” even though extroverts are easy for introverts to understand. This is because extroverts spend large amounts of time working out who they are with people while introverts recognise themselves alone and hence, extroverts have little or no grasp of introversion. They assume that company, especially their own, is always welcome and cannot imagine why someone would need to be alone.

So here is the introvert’s inner workings.

The innate qualities most introverts share are a love of introspection, a need for solitude, and a slower, more focused communication style.

Introspection is as natural as breathing for an introvert. Roaming the limitless landscapes of their own imagination or daydreaming are all part of their inward growth.

The outside world often feels like an assaulting force for introverts and is frequently overstimulating. Turning inward is their means of survival as much as it is a source of comfort. Contemplation on their principles of life, quietly and slowly analysing the world without external assault brings meaning and direction into their life.

The introvert’s desire for solitude is more than a preference. It is crucial to their health and happiness. They grow weary from social interactions rapidly and require alone time to restore themselves. Introverts are often pressured in social situations to the point of exhaustion. After that they just feel guilty for being irritable and grouchy and incapable of being ‘on’ all the time.

An introvert’s brain is very sensitive to dopamine and they require less of it to feel happy. So if there is too much talking or noise, they shut down. Extended periods of socialising (more than one hour) become exhausting and so are surprising and adrenaline rushes. An extrovert, however, has a different neural-pathway that responds positively to large doses of dopamine.

That is why solitude is essential for an introvert to recharge and why they are content and energised by silence.

An introvert prefers to communicate through the written word and figure things out better through thought than through talking about it. Introverts often walk around with many thoughts in their heads, often debate with themselves and prefer deep conversations but they stumble when it comes to polite talk, mindless chatter or discussions that are content-free.

The introvert brain processes everything in their surroundings and pays attention to all the sensory details in the environment, not just the people. The more crowded the environment, the more draining the experience.

Introversion is a personality type that draws strength and satisfaction from the inner world. Being hyper-sensitive to the outside world, they take in the data and experience very quickly and are ready to go back home, recharge and process it all. There is no ‘cure’ for introversion and introverts do not evolve into extroverts.

We can only dream that someday, when our condition is more widely understood, when perhaps an Introverts’ Rights movement has blossomed and borne fruit, it will not be impolite to say “I’m an introvert. You are a wonderful person and I like you. But now please shush.”

The Theory of Good Enough

“The true mind can weather all the lies and illusions without being lost. The true heart can touch the poison of hatred without being lost. Since beginningless time, darkness thrives in the void, but always yields to purifying light.”

I have always known that there is such a thing as truth as much as there is perspective. There is a right thing to do but I am almost incapable of doing that. The most I can strive to be is good enough or almost there. It is the same with goals. I want to reach perfection as much as I do with truth but like truth, there is also a good enough or almost there.

Struggle is necessary to reach good enough and it is good enough to be almost there. For we have power to be happy with good enough and strength to move forward from almost there.

The Theory of the World’s Pattern

“Destiny? What would you know of destiny? If a fish lives its whole life in a river, does he know the river’s destiny? No. Only that it flows on and on, out of his control. He may follow where it flows, but he cannot see the end. He cannot imagine the ocean.”

Likewise, I do not know the world’s destiny and I will not claim to know it. I only know of its patterns. And this is one thing that I noticed: a person has no power to control more than his own destiny. Nothing he says or does can affect another person unless that person allows him to. Nothing another person says or does can affect him unless he allows that person to.

We are all fish living by our limited sight. Yet, at the same time, all of humanity is part of an amazing destiny of the world much too difficult for one person to understand. But once you understand that each one is part of a bigger plan, there is no need to redirect the currents of the river around you or to force all the fish to swim in the same direction you are going.

There is a purpose in the movement of the world in its many directions – even in those moving in the wrong direction. Like a tapestry, the stitches have to criss-cross for the masterpiece to form. It does not mean that there is no place for kindness or instruction. It just means that you no longer have to stake your everything fighting every battle you face. The values that have been lost in time: silence, contemplation and thoughtfulness, are really what it takes to maximise your potential.

But without silence in a world that keeps talking, contemplation in a world that moves ‘forward’ before thinking of the consequences, thoughtfulness in a world just seeking self-pleasure… the pattern of the world is merely that of no control. A mess of water collecting at the bottom of the waterfall, the ugliest part of the beautiful landscape, heading in no one way but throwing itself in every possible direction.

That is the chaos we live in. That is the beauty that we choose to believe in. That is the control we think we have. But the truth is that we can neither hold nor tame chaos. It is better to head in one direction, rather than living recklessly and thoughtlessly, swept up in the currents and pray that it is not a dead end.